The May Queen has been on a disrespectful roll lately. After a showdown at the end of an otherwise good playdate at a friend's house, she came home and continued to push the buttons. I don't believe in spanking, but when I told her for a third time to get into the bathtub and she turned and waggled her bare rear end at me, it was a pretty tempting target. I did manage to keep my hands by my side. And then as I was talking to her about her behavior and she put her fingers in her ears and started saying "la la la la la..." Well. My friend thinks I deserve mother of the year for not making her go out back to find her own switch.
I'm laying down the law. This will end. I do a lot of things well as a parent, and I probably rank up there as a top playful and fun mom. But I'm not always good about expecting consistent obedience and respect. I wanted her to have her mind and not follow the crowd all the time. When we first moved to the south I was even a bit put out by all the kids saying "yes, ma'am." But I am now seeing the benefits of it.
I know that this problem has some roots in my own lax attitude. Yes, part of it is just the age and testing limits and all that. Still, I have to acknowledge that I have not been clear and consistent in my expectations.
Fortunately, she is much better with other adults. And she's not this way all the time. Normally she's a pretty sweet kid. Thankfully.
Right now she's struggling to find things to do since TV and computer priveleges have been suspended. She knows she'll start losing toys next.
Right now I think she'd vote me meanest mom on the planet.
But in the end, she will respect me for it.