Friday, July 11, 2008

musings at the park

I'm hanging with friends in a suburb of Philly, a very college town, liberal place. We were at the park today and I noticed something:

Where I live now, the majority of the moms at the park have perfectly coiffed hair and meticulously applied makeup. They are usually in their yoga pants, and have just come from a tennis match at the gym. The park is their stopover before they take their children to dance class.

Here, the women wear no makeup. The grey shows in their hair. They are in comfortable but not necessarily trendy clothing. When they leave they are off to walk to the library, where their kids will pick out their own new books for the reading program.

I feel much more at home here.

There are a lot of things I love about where I live. But I think I just put a finger on why I haven't made a close friend yet.

26 comments:

Wayfarer Scientista said...

Oh man, I know exactly what you mean...anywho, I'm finally catching up on my reading adn YOUR road trip amoung other things. Hope you are having a blast - love your new (ish) banner.

Chrissy said...

You and I could definitely be real life friends.

I have always marveled at the women of Dallas and their matchy-matchy everything, even on the most casual of occasions.

thailandchani said...

With you totally on this. I have a preference for people who are casual and comfortable.

ALM said...

Oh yes. I have exactly the same problem here. I've lived here longer than any place I've ever lived (except with my parents!) and have made only one friend.....

amanda said...

You are in my back yard! I completely understand.

Jen of A2eatwrite said...

I think it's hard to fully get the southern vibe unless you're from the South.

I'm not. I've tried, and I seem to always be stepping on toes in the South, without meaning to.

I'm definitely more comfortable around the Philly folks you mentioned.

Rima said...

I hear ya. That sounds like my kind of place, too.

the dragonfly said...

One good thing about the military life: there are all kinds of people wherever you go. :)

Wish I could live by you again...maybe someday. :)

Kyla said...

Oh yes. Appearances are everything in the south. I don't exactly care for it.

Kathryn said...

I hear ya. I don't think I would fit in too well with the perfects.

slouching mom said...

it sounds a lot like my town.

wanna move here?

Mary Beth said...

Yeah! That's how we roll here in the tri-state area -- comfort is everything!

Magpie said...

Yup.

Catherine said...

Oooh, I can't even remember the last time I was all done up like that. I'm always in comfy clothes and ALWAYS on my way to the library. :)

Lora said...

I must defend the Southern honor! I have been in the Deep South all of my life. I do wear make-up-but it takes me about 5 minutes to put it all on. I wear my gardening/exercising/playing clothes 90% of the time. I have GREAT-close friends. The secret is I have looked where others have similar interests-running group/neighbors/church small group. Being a friend takes lots of time and grows with time-but well worth the sacrifice. It all starts with ONE conversation that somebody has to start! Be that somebody!

ewe are here said...

100% with you on this... I'm chasing wee ones, who has time to be fashionable and in full makeup??? Comfy, people, comfy!

womaninawindow said...

ugh. Me no wear yoga pants.

Candygirlflies said...

How do they get the makeup to stay ON, with all that HEAT??

It's high summer, here (37 degrees in the shade this aft), and even if I had put any on in the first place (which I didn't), the ol' greasepaint would have been dripping off of my chin in no time flat!

xoxo CGF

ps. You're welcome up here in the "laid back" Great White North, ANYTIME.

Alpha DogMa said...

Do you think it is a north vs. south thing?

Emily said...

I think AD hit it on the head.

Big hair, big jewelery, lots of make up in the south. (I'm a western granola girl, now, but I embrace my southern roots.)

Have a safe and FABULOUS trip! Loving the pictures and updates!

heather said...

Wow that struck a chord with me...we live in the South but I'm a PA girl at heart. When we drive across the MD to PA border it's like the air molecules re-arrange themselves.

In fact, I'm often not sure why we still live in the South.

Amy Y said...

I hear you! I would feel much more comfortable in that park in Philly!

nomotherearth said...

I know EXACTLY what you mean. In my neighbourhood, I am the equivalent of "white trash". I've never really thought of myself that way, but apparently, having money in this hood is VERY Important. Sucky moms.

alejna said...

What an interesting comparison. The moms of our local park don't really match either description. (Or maybe I just haven't really observed too closely. I'll open my eyes more next time.)

While I'm not sure exactly where I fit in as a mommy (other than maybe this online oasis of blogging), the college town sounds much more appealing. And I'm quite sure I would feel particularly out of place among the coiffed.

Beck said...

Everyone around here wears polarfleece sweaters and fanny packs and elastic waist pants. WE're REAL casual.

imbeingheldhostage said...

Ooh, nice observation. I've noticed how much I'VE changed in the last two years being in England-- everybody shows up on the school run in makeup and heels, but the group I left behind (the closest friends I've made during our military gypsy years) never worried about how they looked and the library or the picnic in the park were the top spots to be. sigh.
THAT is what life should be like.
And, I'm enjoying your vacation pictures btw, I just don't have a lot of time to comment while the kids are home. I will soon.